Sometimes my tongue can get me in trouble. Okay, more than sometimes. This tends to happen when I get in a disagreement or argument with someone close to me. When in disagreement or in a argument, I listen to respond and really don't give the other person a chance to speak. I want to be heard, I want to get all I have to say out, and what the other person has to say doesn't really matter to me unless I get what's off of my chest first. Am I the only person who has struggled or struggles with this problem? I don't really do it with outsiders but with family, close friends, my partner; If I feel some type of way, they are going to feel it. Once I feel like I am unable to share my opinions or feel like someone is judging my character incorrectly, my tongue gets in panic mode. "Say whatever you have to say at the moment to protect your opinions, beliefs and values" says my mind to my tongue. "What the other person is saying right now doesn't matter".
Proverbs 21:23 says Those who guard their mouths and tongues keep themselves from calamity. The definition of Calamity is an event causing great and often sudden damage or distress; a disaster. With our words, we can cause a disaster. A disaster between friends, family members, co-workers, our partners. Our words can destroy a relationship, change someone's perspective, create tension and also hurt someone by causing distress from things you choose to let roll off of your tongue. My mom always told me " Noey, your tongue is gonna get you in trouble girl, "Tame it". The process seems so easy when everything is going smooth and great, but once I feel offended or someone slightly coming for me; its on. But this is not the right way at all.God wants us to love one another in good times and bad, have control of our tongues, and be wise about what we say and do. He wants us to lift each other up, not bring each other down. No matter the circumstance. I am imperfect but I'm striving to be better and better everyday. I don't want to hurt anyone with my tongue, especially the people closest to me.
Friends and Family, I need your help. If taming the tongue is something you struggle with, join me today in working towards better. Lets not gossip or tell lies, slander each other and tarnish each other's names, say things we can't take back, which leave scars. Lets lift each other up and not tear each other down. There will be times when we are upset or feel taken advantage of, but we don't always have to respond right away. Sometimes silence is best. Silence will also give you time to think about what you want to say so you are not hurtful and can speak with a clear mind. Let's practice Taming our tongues.
Be Encouraged ,
Noelani
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